I've spent most of it with my good friend Ann, whom I really haven't been able to spend time with much the last year, and her daughter Bethany, the bride-to-be. Yes, the same Bethany that comes every other week and helps with the cleaning. Or, some weeks, does what little cleaning gets done around here. I love to spend time with Ann, and I hate that we go so long sometimes without seeing each other. But she has a grandchild she takes care of and I have trips to hospitals to make.
The wedding is the 18th, and Ann and Bethany are trying to do too much all by themselves. The bridesmaids and cousins and so on that usually help with this sort of stuff are out of town or busy, and Bethany doesn't have any sisters. So I'm pitching in as the Crazy ole Aunt, and Thomas is helping because he doesn't have aything else pressing right now, and he also has a small stake in the wedding. Well, maybe bigger than small. He's the musician. He'll be playing the piano during the ceremony, for the prelude hymn, procession, etc. and during the reception he's going to play violin music. I'm hoping word gets around and he gets more "gigs" that might actually pay. He's doing this one as a gift to Bethany and also Ann. She's been really good to him over the years, and a happy, positive force in his life.
Pretty much all day Saturday I spent with them, forgetting entirely that Thomas had a Pizza party to go to and I was in the only car he likes to drive. By the time he called and asked where was I it was too late to get home and him get to the party even reasonably late. I felt so bad I took him to Ruby Tuesdays and We had their fabulous, cooked to order burger. They will actually cook you an almost rare burger, the way I like them. Thomas likes Medium rare, and that's not as easy to get as you think it is. Nobody wants the liability of serving you meat that might still be pink. But at Ruby Tuesdays' they let you be a grown-up and make your own decisions about meat. Then, as we were moaning about how good the food was, I sprung it on him that it was also a little bit of a bribe, and that I wanted him to come back to Ann's with me on Sunday to help with things like putting together favors and painting latticework for a backdrop, etc. He didn't really need a bribe, he loves Ann too, and doesn't mind being helpful, but it was fun to go eat our bribes!
Sunday we did just that. We spent the morning running around my house cleaning and doing laundry and the afternoon sorting flowers and putting together fru-frus and nailing and painting old lattice work (well, Bruce, Ann's husband, did most of the actual painting with a giant paint sprayer, but Thomas did lifting and toting and nailing and moving and such). But we also had cake, left over from the bridal shower. And Thomas left for a couple of hours to go practice at the Fret Shop with his medieval music group (Consort a L'Ancienne). So it wasn't only work.
Today for a while we're going back and helping cut and tie tulle for chair decorations, etc. When I say they were doing it all by themselves, I meant ALL. They do have a caterer, and a cake person, and a florist for the live flowers, but most of the flower decorations are being put together right there at Ann's. And thy bought a wedding gown, and bridesmaid gowns, but Ann is doing the alterations on the bridesmaid gowns, and sewing the flower girl dress. I'm preaching at her about being able to delegate a little better, but it's too late now! So, once again, I'm glad I only have boys.